what do you think about this?
i have dreams quite frequently about my parents flat out not caring. some examples have been during a tornado i say i can’t get to the basement, and they say it isn’t a big deal. or i’ll do something extraordinary, win something, get a good grade, what ever, and they just don’t care. do you think like this translates to how i feel in "real life"?
i feel really under appreciated in general. not only by my parents. i feel like if i ever did just get up and leave, the only reason people would miss me or realize i was gone is because all the shit i do for them suddenly doesn’t get done. i feel like people have high expectations for me, so when things go well, no one really cares, its expected. then when something does go wrong for once, its a huge deal. i feel like the only times i’m recognized is when some thing’s gone wrong. again, this applies to life in general, not just my parents. i feel like the world just goes on around me sometimes though. like people don’t even make an effort with me. i have to initiate things. people can talk to each other, but i’m hardly in the picture.
i don’t want this to sound like a pity story or rant, i’m just trying to get stuff out there to see if it applies.
so basically my question is, are these reoccurring dreams simply a reflexion of how i feel in real life, that people just don’t care, or do you think this could mean something different? i get them at least once a week, sometimes more.
thanks ahead of time
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One comment
meh on January 20, 2010 at 4:36 pm
I think it sounds like you are right on the dot with what you are thinking. With my fiance I sometimes feel like all that I do and contribute to our relationship goes unnoticed. It seems that when Im having a longer period of feeling like (I let it go unresolved) this I have some dreams in which he is a complete jerk and does not care at all, in the dreams the things that happen are huge deals but to him it is literally nothing….
I believe our dreams (mos tof the time, not all but a lot of the time) are from a part of our un concious or even consious minds/feeling happenings ect. Whether they make sense or not. It seems you are able to "get" your dreams and know what they are trying to tell you…now whats left is to act on it…seriously try talking to your family, even a counselor or mediator may help, don’t let it go without resolving or attempting to resolve it. And know that there is some reason (whether ppls admit it ) that you are feeling this way, write down situations that have happened to help back yourself up when talking to them about it (and of cuorse use the I feel or I see statements and be calm when bringing it up, they’ll be more likely to take it seriously and realize that they may need to give you more credit for the wonderful things you do). You sound like an awesome person who can and will go far in life and you deserve the recognition and encouragement it brings to go further. Parents and people in general are not perfect and are flawed, but your parents can learn from this and help you by noticing the great you do…I hope all goes well and i hope you and your family/friends can resolve this. TAke care.