Am I ugly, am I unsexy – why did he cheat? honestly nd more answers pt 2? I put wrong pic on last Question.?
Am I ugly, am I unsexy – why did he cheat? honestly nd more answers pt 2?
saw him nearly every night and we were always together. His family and mine were happy or us. He told me quite early on that he would like to work abroad at some point. I spent most of my time trying to find a job abroad so we could go together. My only stipulation was he try and go to an english speaking country as this gave me a good chance of finding a job as well as I wanted him to have his dream. After 5 or 6 years, I mentioned isnt it about time we started thinking about living tgether? He said that he was scared of living together so I agreed how about we try
me staying more than 1 night a week t start off with as we are together all the time on holidays and it has never been a problem. He agreed but it never happened. After 6 years like this my family and his started to say he was using me as we did everything couples do except live together. They constantly questioned me about where we were going, if we had a future etc. They semed to blame me where it was his decision to not have us move in. I told him to please talk to them as I was under so much pressure from everybody. Last year I lost my job unfairly and was considering legal action. I was in such a mess and told him he could do better than me as I was a nothing and a nobody (I was very depressed) After 5 weeks I found another job but found out he had secretely asked another girl out. He said he was so sorry,it was becuase I said he could do better. We stayed together, I said we need to move this relationship up as engaged now for 4 years and still no
improvement on living together. I decided to get out from the pressure of my parents and buy my own home. He agreed and helped me with the deposit saying we would have our own place (even though he already lives alone) so he could live with me. During this his pal, became ill with Cancer – he dealt with this by cutting himself off from me saying he was going through a terrible time and his job was possibly being cut too. I said should we have a break so he could deal with the situation, he said he couldnt handle any external pressure namely me as I was asking him when I coud stay the night (getting angry in the process as he didnt undertsand why I felt used for sex) After two months of not seeing him properly, I asked him what was going on and he said everytime he saw me he gets stressed out. I have stood by him through two fatal accidents, his workload, his ups and downs etc and was finally at breaking point. I found out that a younger girl (20 yrs
younger) had asked him out and he was seeing her. she told me to get lost he was with her now!!
She text me lots of vindictive messages and he did not stop it. He said he was at his lowest when he met her and wants us to get back together. the house I bought went through when he was with her. I am on my own now doing it up, his work found out about them and sacked him. He has now had to move away for work. Is this my fault and how do I get us back together.
When I asked him why he did this, he said because I told him I would be leaving after another year if things didn?t change a bit, also he was at his lowest point in life because of his pal dying. He told me he only got engaged to me to keep me until somebody better came along. After 6 months we started talking again and he said he didnt mean anything he said. have now found out he is seeing somebody abroad; I saw their photo on face book. I confronted him and he has just said he doesnt want to hurt me.
Now though, he is with this other woman moving on. The girl he cheated on me with has moved onto her next target without a care in the world. I am left holding the bag all on my own. She broke us up like a tornado and has now left a path of destruction. How do I get my life on track, I have not many pals and am very alone. I see her everywhere happy and smiling whereas I have just lost the bset thing I ever had and I cant cope with the loss. Her ex told me she is destructive. She breaks up families and moves on. Now my guy and I are in different countries and moving on. How do I move on to? I just cant take this.
I really want to meet that special person and thought I’d found him. Am I ugly, please look at pic and tell me.
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5 comments
Jess on September 3, 2010 at 6:47 pm
I can’t see the pic as you need to have an fb account to look at it.
Anyways, I don’t need to see the pic because I know EXACTLY what you are going through… And your are basically putting all your self worth into what a man thinks about you. You think that because he hooked up with someone unattractive this automatically makes you even less attractive than her.
Also you have been kept hanging basically until so-called ‘better’ came along. Chance are you are a nice, sweet girl and he took advantage of that and he knew he could get away with trampling on you and using you. The same thing happened to me with my close friend he told me he wasn’t ready for a relationship and stopped me from pursuing other guys when all along he had a string of girls and when he’d finished with them he finally came round to me but decided he only wanted to use me… Also the other women were hideously unattractive which made my confidence hit rock bottom. My advice to you is time will heal and realise you deserve better, someone who will really adore you and never even think of using you because he cares for you so deeply and lovingly. And no you are not ugly I assume you are very beautiful and this is where a lot of beautiful girls go wrong and get heartbroken, they just can’t understand why a man has not fallen for them and then begin to doubt their looks, but it takes a lot more than beauty to capture a man’s heart a man will never love you for your looks. That guy isn’t even concerned with love he’s just a dirty user and abuser.
Good luck x
Nonya Buisness on September 3, 2010 at 6:47 pm
First of all waaaaayy to long of a question, I just skimmed it, noone is going to read your enitre question. If you want people to answer, shorten it up!
-- ßëå§T BØi -- on September 3, 2010 at 6:47 pm
There is Big Saying By Hazart Ali (R.A)..
" That i Ask For My Wishes To Allah (GOD) For my needs, i get so happy when my wishes get accepted and completed , and i get even more happier when its not completed , peoples asked why then he Answered because first its was only my wish , and when Allah (GOD) didn’t accepted it means its his Wish , and Allah (GOD) loves his person , and there would be surely something great planned for me better then my that wish "
The whole point is to putting that please don’t cry princess (i know you were crying), hope you wont mind if i call you that . . life is like that sometimes we been tested , like giving a love and taking it back by ALLAH (GOD) .but it doesn’t mean we should lose a hope sure there would be a Great Plan B For you maybe he was just a normal guy , but now Allah (GOD) would be sending some Angel for you who would love you forever , and would praise you forever ,and your love would get more more more , day by day .. so decide whom you want that guy who was like normal person or the Angel so be patient and believe in that yea whatever happens its for Good , maybe your Angel would be coming for you or it would be already reached to you
and now secondly you are not Ugly nor Even Near to that you are so beautiful as mentioned you are princess and secondly don’t know about any prince charming but if you need a true friend feel free to email me: i would love to have a friend like and take you out all of this mess up hope i could help you
can email me @ …
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Matt C on September 3, 2010 at 6:47 pm
You’re not ugly, some guys cheat just because they can. As do some women. Its just as much her fault as it is his, and she was cheating on somebody too. Maybe you should hook up with her ex. In a round-and-about way both of ya were screwed by the same woman right? Whats to say its not worth a shot? The best you can do is not give your ex another chance because he’ll cheat again, and again if you let him.
7 on September 3, 2010 at 6:47 pm
Ever watched "Pretty Woman," with Julia Roberts? The famous line "BIG MISTAKE."