Am i a horrible mother?
So first id like to say that i LOVE all of my children very very much and id never ever hurt them…but somthing scared me this afternoon. I was sitting at work and i fell asleep for litterlly 3 seconds. The image i saw when my eyes closed made me sick and i started bawling i could not calm down or forget about it. It was just like a dream (a nightmare) ive been really exhausted for a while now and i could fall asleep in the middle of a tornado…so anyway i saw my baby sitting out in the back yard on a blanket but he was on the cement patio. i grabbed the corner and yanked it from under him and he fell and started crying. I jumped awake as i was going for him again. I dont know where this came from. I wasnt even thinking about him before it happened or anything. Just completly random. Please dont think im crazy or abusive i have NEVER hurt my kids and i have never felt like i wanted to. I just feel horrible. Have you ever had anything like this happen to you before?
Thanks EVERYONE for putting me at ease. Its been bothering me all day. Thank you for all your support!
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9 comments
sTeR on November 30, 2009 at 1:58 pm
WOW! well it can be normal, its ok to have strange thoughts as long as you don’t act on them, after I had my baby I had a bit of the baby blues and would randomly think of weird things like that, never would act on them, its just when your stressed out your mind plays tricks on you, I wouldn’t worry but if your too stressed out talk to someone wether its a professional or mom, good ol mom always there with the best advise, learned that one the hard way. good luck!
Jenn on November 30, 2009 at 1:58 pm
YOU ARE NOT A HORRIBLE MOTHER. (and this is coming from a teen–the people programmed to hate mothers)
Honestly, dreams never even mean what you think they do. Maybe try googling some info on dreams and what they could represent. I wouldn’t feel bad at all; you can’t control your dreams.
equestrian74 on November 30, 2009 at 1:58 pm
I have short violent images like that go through my head once in a while and I’m totally a peaceful person. I think its perfectly normal and it definately doesn’t mean you are a bad mother or person at all. Its probably just stress messing with your brain.
free_angel on November 30, 2009 at 1:58 pm
Relax. You’re not a horrible mother. Kids can get themselves into trouble in a blink of an eye. They’re tough, they’ll get right back up and take off again. Just like when they fall and skin their knee, they’ll cry for attention and then take off running again when they get it. You’re just overly tired is all. Get some rest.
cindy on November 30, 2009 at 1:58 pm
ill tell you what is wrong… you are so damn tired your going crazy! you need someone to help you with the kids.. i understand (well somwhat) what you are feeling…kids are allot of work… i live with my sisters kids…and they tire the hell out of me and there not even mine..(love them to death) I put them to sleep at night 9late at night0 and they wake my @ss up at the crack of dawn.. i could scream somtimes but i put up with it! there wonderful1 Anyway You are not a bad parent you are a good one.. u might need a brake to sleep though you need your rest! its not healthy! You could hurt your self!
mika*mika on November 30, 2009 at 1:58 pm
I am not a mother, so I cannot relate to your experience exactly. However, you do not seem to be a horrible mother at all. The mere fact that this mini dream upset you so much leads me to believe that you are a very kind, sweet mother and person overall.
The one piece of advice I give you is get some rest!!!!!!! You’ll function and feel a whole lot better (less depressed or moody, etc.)
hugs.
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Kimmie on November 30, 2009 at 1:58 pm
Of course your not
Dreams are apparently things that will never happen so this is good
Cindy on November 30, 2009 at 1:58 pm
No honey. It was just a freaky random dream. Who knows why we dream the things we do. I had a dream about Brad Pitt the other night. Does that mean I want to leave my husband for Brad Pitt? No. You work, so you are overtired and stressed. Don’t worry about it. The fact that you are so worried, just proves what a loving mommy you are. Be Happy.
hummingbird on November 30, 2009 at 1:58 pm
The fact that you realize it’s a disturbing image means that you are not a bad mother! The problem is when a mother thinks that image is normal, and maybe even decides to do it!